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 Are you an Emotional Abuse Survivor? |
| Posted On Jul 17, 2008 at 12:28 PM Tags: (Tag)
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Queenie
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 Yes I AM!
I have not just endured one type of Emotional Abuse...looking back on my life, I have been exposed to many forms.  Friendship abuse, occupational abuse, racial abuse, neglect, Spousal emotional abuse, sibling abuse, Spiritual abuse and peer pressure. I have even suffered emotional abuse at my own hand. Neglecting my own needs, negative self talk, being overly critical of myself, not forgiving myself, etc. 
I'm determined to understand what it was in me that allowed me to seek out and stay in those relationships while tolerating that mistreatment. 
I do realize that the common denominator in each of those relationships is ME! And I have to assume responsibility for allowing myself to be in this position. We teach people how to treat us. And I most certainly taught people that I will give all that I have and all that I am and I don't expect anything in return. 
What's worse is I've even noticed that I, too, have begun to display those same critical, judgemental and passive aggressive tendencies. I hate it!  But I have to be honest...I see it in me.
So, everyday, I have to make a conscious effort to STAND in LOVE in my relationships with myself and in my relationships with others. I'm working on it...are you? So, what's YOUR story?
There's so much more to this and I'll be sharing more insights on my BlogTalkRadio Show 'Self-Love Radio, with Queenie Brown' http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com/SelfLoveRadio. I hope you'll join me.
Last edited on Oct 13, 2009 at 9:49 AM by Queenie.
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| Posted On Aug 5, 2008 at 12:47 PM |
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Linda
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Hi everyone who is learning to LOVE themself. My name is LINDA I would like to share some experienc I endured at Christmas time. I receive a letter from my sister. I initially sent her a letter and ask why she literally stole an item that was meant for me by a brother who passed. I did not receive an answer, just a smoke screen of insults about everything and anything I have ever done or didn,t do. A lot of what was said I feel was my sister projecting her view of life onto me. I never the less felt hurt, angry, shoked at some of the cruel ideas she had about me all my life. It was not really such a surprise in a way I on some level felt the animosity. I still have internalize what was said at IT REALLY HURTS to finally realize she was behind a lot of the ostrasizing I endured by family. When ever I would confide in her it would find its way into a family forum or a suppot group she attended. I was destroyed by the admission of my traumatic experience revealed to strangers. There really is no code of anonimity when strangers here a piece of what is really delivered as gossip disguised as concer for me her sister. I have severed ties with her and tryind to find a place in my mind for this deceit but I don't find peace because I can't believe a human being can have such greed in the heart. Linda
P.S. Is this subject matter inappropiate for the site?
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| Re: Are you an Emotional Abuse Survivor? |
| Posted On Aug 5, 2008 at 1:46 PM |
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Queenie
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Yes This subject matter is appropriate for this site. Thank you so much for sharing. I too have endured sibling abuse and I know how destructive it can be on your self esteem. Even today I am still reminded of the painful words and deeds that were a part of my youth. The first lesson that I had to learn is that I don't have the power to change anyone but me. And sometimes you need to distance yourself from those who have consistently been abusive towards you. I commend you for reaching out. It takes courage to ask for help and it takes determination to stay in and fight for the woman you lost...the Linda that may not have ever had a chance to develop. So continue to share. We all appreciate and can learn from your story. Again, I'm so glad you found us and I am sure that through this process you will grow to know and love the woman that you are today...and the woman that you are becoming. Hugz, Q!
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Loving You and Me!
Queenie!
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