Queenie
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Location: Atlanta, GA
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Ok ladies....I know this is a sensitive topic. But it's time that we get honest about YOU. After we deal with the facts...we can identify how to move through it. So let's just Go There, shall we?
Are you self-centered? What has it cost you? Has it caused you to lose valuable friendships/relationships? Do you ever feel lonely? Are you ready to move away from selfishness to live a more fulfilled life?
OR...Are you self-less? What has being self-less cost you? Do you often feel taken advantage of? Dis-respected? Have you given so much of yourself away that there's nothing left in you...for you?
Let's chat about it...
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My Experience
I grew up being so very self-less...giving away all of 'ME' in hopes that I would be accepted and loved by the people in my world. Being Self-Less cost me my health, my relationships, my self-respect, my confidence, my self-worth/esteem, my college degree and quite honestly...it cost me my sanity  .
I realized that I had given away 'ME' in exchange for an artificial love that could never truly satisfy the longing within me. I was longing for an unconditional, never failing, accepting, unwavering, trustworthy love that only God could give to me.
When I discovered that I could become Self-Full through Self-Love, I found that I could get the love that I need and not sacrifice all of myself. And that Love, God's Love, is the only Love that could satisfy that hunger that was in me. So I learned how to surrender and let God Love Me. Then I let God teach Me how to Love 'ME' with His Love. And in me Self-Love was born.
In the process of embracing this newfound Self-Love, I found myself moving way too far into the realm of selfishness. Then I began to feel the loneliness of isolation. I had to face the fact that I had given so much to 'ME' that I had neglected the relationships/friendships that once meant so much to me.
I'm still learning and growing each day and I am so very grateful for this lesson in Love.
The point here is that there must be balance. We have to learn how to find the happy medium called Self-Full and make a daily effort to stand in that powerful position of FullNess.
We'll learn more about how to move towards being more Self-Full in upcoming Love Lessons.
So, what are your thoughts? Do you tend to be Self-ish or Self-less? And what has it cost you? Do share...
Last edited on Oct 19, 2007 at 12:23 AM by Queenie.
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